Thursday, February 12, 2015

HAVE A HEART

I bet you are thinking that I am talking about Valentine's Day. I'm not. I am talking about those of us with broken hearts who continually hear remarks like, get over it, get on with your life, I know what you are going through - most likely they don't. In the past year two of my very good friends lost their husbands to heart attacks. These men were also my friend and let me tell you they died way to young. It has been 9 years 8 months and 12 days since my son, Matthew, the Sgt in the Marines and the Sheriff Deputy took his life. I am still to this day receiving these negative comments and worse. My heart is broken into a million pieces and so are my friend's hearts. I wrote "Matt's Last Call: Surviving Our Protectors," for several reasons. Number one the Holy Spirit came to me and told me I needed to tell my story, number two, I don't want anyone else to go through what I go through every single day and three and maybe the most important I want to save lives. I want to get rid of the stigma of suicide, the ignorance and the rude comments. There are so many different organizations out there trying to end suicide. But, when NO one cares and just continue with the comments it hurts and it hurts bad. My friends whose husbands died from heart attacks are totally different than my son's death but the comments are the same and cutting to our already broken hearts. I am working with many survivors of not only suicide but other deaths trying to help my friends cope with this new life we don't want. I must say I have Jesus Christ in my life and he is the reason I stand today. He never condemns our loved ones but forgives us/them and he will always love us. If you don't know Jesus ask Him into your heart so you can be saved and have eternal life with our great Father in Heaven. I ask you to please think about what I have said, read the chapter "Life Will Never Be the Same" in my book and learn a little bit more on how we feel. I would also ask you to share this with your friends so that they may change their tune on responses to a survivor. Tell your friends and family, Law Enforcement and First Responders, USMC and all the other military service members. Back to Valentine's Day - my dad's birthday, may he rest in peace. Happy Valentine's Day to all my friend's and their loved ones and most important, say something nice to those of us suffering on this day. A little means a ton to us.